but to be honest it is impossible at this age and my week has proved this.
basically ..i had a relationships this halfterm , and if im going to be honest .. it was my FIRST proper relationship. but as it was a week.. i can proudly say i have never had a relationship, this is mainly because i usually avoid looking for love as im only a teenager and i stick to having links ( no strings attached , no emotions involved ) .
LOVE . what the fuck is love ?
recently i thought it was cuddles , kissing in the rain, walks in the park, talking on the phone to early hours in the morning , presents and shit . but to be honest love isnt something that can be defined , when you have it .. you just KNOW. if you dont then ..you dont, but you will probably continue convincing yourself that its love.
throwing around the world love
do you know how many pricks have told me they love me ? and im like thankyou but DONT LIE TO ME. am i rihanna ?
one boy even then replied saying ' okay , i likenyou' and as much as i hate him now , i actually respect that , he didnt pretend he loves me. boys need to realize that girls take the L word seriously.VERY. SERIOUSLY . so dont just throw it about like it is a fucking metro .
ALSO please note : the word love is NOT the key into their heart or genitalia area .
why is it so hard for boys to be HONEST about their feelings ?
wouldnt it be easier if you just told the truth instead of making consecutive lies ?
e.g an ex only saw me as a friend and instead of telling me, he decided to carry on saying he loves me, arranging more dates with me and telling me shit like im the only girl he would ever want to be with . on one of the dates he even said he sees me more of a friend. i saw that as a compliment , because to have a good relationship you NEED to be friends first. anyway we had an argument.. truth comes out and he said he ONLY ever saw me as a friend. how am i supposed to know that? and why tell me all that lovey dovey shit if you only ever saw me as a friend? WHYYYYYYYYYYY ?
it cant be love if he doest respect you
everyone should know by now that i am STUBBORN; once someone crosses that line they will probably never be able to get back on the other side of that line...EVER.
i am SICK of dumb girls saying ' o but i cant leave because i LOVE him. ' this guy could be sleeping with their mum whilst getting head of their sister but because they LOVE him , its okay .
domestic violence , it is horrible and i sound so mean , but many of those women do have chances to leave but they stay because they love him and they think that love conquers all . if he doesnt respect you , then im sorry babes , but there is NO LOVE.
dont look for love
whenever you look for something , it always takes twice the time for you to find it . things always come unexpected . also because youve spent so long imagining what it might be like ,when it does come .. your like . is that it ? so there really is no point in looking for love because the same thing will happen . and when you think it has come , even if it isnt really love , you will convince yourself that it is. another reason why you shouldnt look for it , is if it never comes .. people usually try and find a substitute , many sluts are only like that because they wont some sort of love or acknowledgement ( i spelt it right the first time- baddamannn ) from a boy . if somethings meant to be, it is meant to be .. dont force it .
love at a teenager
why are 15 year olds telling 12 years olds that they cant be in love ? NEITHER CAN YOU. and yes if you read my other blogs you'll be like ' but deannneeee YOU said 12 year olds cant be in love ' SHUTUP. did i ever say ANY teenager can be in love ? no.
if love as a teenager was such a common thing , why do people get married at 25 years old and older .
&why do on average at least 80% of teenage marriages end withing the first 5 years . PLEASE , someone , TELL. ME. WHY.
im not going to lie , love can happen e.g my aunty and uncle got together in high school 13 years later they are now married with two kids , but it took them 13 years to realize they are in love . so after 6 months , and your saying your in love ? stop embarrassing yourself babes.
love at first sight
ive always thought this was stupid , usually people IN LOVE are like 'oo dont judge a book by its cover'.. yet they are the ones saying it was love at first sight. so your telling me you was on the bus or wherever , this person looks up at you , you look back and BAAAAAAM its love . LOL how do you know they wasnt looking at the person next to you , you simple idiot .
im joking , i know they dont mean love at first sight literally.. that would just be dumb...but love at first sight.. i think that is stupid, how many of your first impressions have actually been RIGHT ? say . no. more .
fight for this love
i know so many people who have had relationships that ended because of pointless arguments ( COUGH- boys dumping ME ) . if it was LOVE , you would fight for it , you would try to make it work , you would have no qualms ( problem) in losing some pride or dignity because it is worth it . so when you end with someone , please dont come to me saying i loved him but i had to dump him , because unless yours or someone else's life is in danger you dont HAVE to do anything ( that applies to all situations )
difference between LOVE and LUST
why dont people ever realize that what they're feeling isnt love, it is just very strong lust?
lust - A large physical attraction for an individual, that is sometimes uncontrollable and completely unreasonable. often mistaken for love.
if you still dont get i..t lust is what you feel when you see this..
that is lust. not love .
yes of course.. you HAVE to have lust first for it to turn into a love because you need to have that attraction but if it is ALWAYS lust.. then that is how it is going to stay.
lets do an experiment ..imagine you and them .. if you was doing something sexual it is most probably lust.
dont change for love
i mentioned this is the ' my definition of a friend' blog but it applies to this too . if someone really loves you , then they love ALL of you , even your flaws . so if they make you feel like you need to change . then it isnt love and you need to LEAVE. one boy i had a thing with said i speak too posh and that i should talk slang more . you know what i said , ' i accept your point of view and what you want from me , but i would prefer if you refrained from trying to change me '
okay i didnt say those exact words LOL but i didnt change for him.
it is so easy to change for someone because of love , because your trying to make them happy . but to make someone else happy you shouldnt have to always sacrifice your happiness.
i love you too
okay so if the only reason you think you love them is because they love you .. GUESS WHAT . that isnt love. true feelings are never forced, they happen by themselves and are usually unstoppable.
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sorry if this sounds biased because i have said what love isnt, but there is no point in me trying to define love when i know absoloutely nothing about it .
anyway that is all i have had to say , i hope it makes you feel better because it certainly helped me.
x
