my definition of a friend

wow this title brings backs memories , i remember when i was having arguement after arguement , and my true friends were turning fake by the day . so one day my mum sat me down and she was like deanne , what is a friend to you ? and i told her and she was like okay. then she was like , now write it so you can remind yourself what a friend is to you and you can see if your friends resemble what you want .

well i obviously lost that list ... and now im here to do it again, so it can be a constant reminder to me and YOU . ive had many arguments with friends so now im in the process of re -evaluating my life. hopefully after this, i will make friends with people i should , and cut out the unnecessary ones.

MY DEFINITION OF A FRIEND.
( okay i was gonna be cheesy and get the dictionary definition then compare it to mine but fuck that . the dictionary doesnt have any experience with friends so here goes..  )

a friend is someone you can be completely yourself with ,e.g  you can do the carlton dance and they wont judge you , they wont look at you weird , they'll just be like YEAHH THATS MY FRIEND . YEAH SHES/HES DOIGN THE CARLTON DANCE.. GOTTA PROBLEM BEEETCHES ?
haha this so reminds me of my friend rosemary <3

a friend is someone who is not ALWAYS on your side  .. they wont be up your ass , they will tell you when your in the wrong  and they will give you constrictive criticism to make you a better person.
no one needs someone who is up their ass and agrees with everything they say , thats the difference between acquaintance and friend.

a friend is someone who can listen to your problems and is comfortable in telling you theirs .
if your always listening to theyre problems but they never want to hear yours . thats NOT a friend. and if your always telling your problems and never hear theirs, sorry to break it to you but your a shit friend.
now if they dont have problems .. they dont have problems ( i sound like the iphone advert ) abut when they do .. BE THERE FOR THEM. LISTEN and GIVE ADVICE.

a friend is someone who will NEVER judge you .. as they have already accepted you as a person , they may not be pleased by some of your decisions , but they will acknowledge your human and that everyone makes mistakes. Then they will help you out of the bad decisions you made.


a friend is someone who will be able to congratulate you when you do something positive with your life .
i know so  many ' friends ' who would love to see me fail my gcse's just so their scores can look good . FUCK THAT SHIT.

a friend is someone who is totally honest with you and someone you can trust.. to be honest if there is no trust , there is no relationship. if they lie to you .. theyre not a friend. a friend wont lie too make you feel better .. they will be honest and then comfort you when the truth hits you.

a friend is someone who can maintain your friendship no matter what.. LOL i used to have a friend who would forget about all her old friends whenever any one new came into their life . a friend values your friendship and will not stop talking to you randomly and will always find a way too make time for you , even when they have no time.

a friend is someone who gives you advice .. now there is a difference between telling someone what to do and advising someone and suggestion different options of what they could do to help themselves. a friend will advise you and talk to you about your problems, and help you no matter what choice you make, when deciding how to deal with your problem.

a friend is someone who wants to make you into the best person you can be .. now im not saying your friend will want to change you , because one thing ive learnt is you can never change someone, especially if they are not ready to change themselves. anyway as a friend you will let them know their strengths as a person and help them work on their weaknesses. e.g today a friend said that i was dealing with the problem right and they can see where im coming from but that im being a bit stubborn so i should try and work on that ( rochane - i love her ) . and thats what a friend would do.. by her telling me that , ill try not to be stubborn and know i could use that skill throughout MY WHOLE LIFE.
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i think that is all to being a friend , no one is perfect so you cant be a perfect friend , but at least you can try.
and people.. if you ever feel like someone isnt being a good friend to you ..read this. &see if they do all these things ...
because whilst going through them i was like but wait .. i do THIS and this and shittttttt i do THAT aswell..so why are we arguing :| but hey ho , shit happens.

you dont deserve a bad friend , no one does. also remember quality and quantity applies to friendships too- dont EVER think you should be friends with someone just because youve known them for a long time. things change. people change.

dont be friends with someone because they're your only friend , no company is better than SHIT company. BELIEVE ME.

basically as a friend , they need ^ THESE qualities. if they dont fuck em.